Comments on: The tyranny of being a Mother In Law

By: Nova

Nova — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 07:29:05 +0000

What a wonderful wonderful post! I wish all MILs were this mature, then this world would be a much happier place

By: indianworkingwoman

indianworkingwoman — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 23:00:23 +0000

came across this article when trying to find some solutions for joint family issues….i hope i can get my MIL to read it.

By: Apar

Apar — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 19:11:11 +0000

On second thoughts…please delete my previous and this comment. It just sorta came out. Sorry!

By: Apar

Apar — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 19:09:16 +0000

By: Destination Infinity

Destination Infinity — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 14:27:39 +0000

I don’t know what is so attractive for young couples to live alone. Already, the joint family is gone. Now, they don’t even want to live with their parents. Tomorrow, they would want to live alone away from each other?

Some day, they will have to face the same situation (Or worse). If they are perfectly ok with that, then it is fine. Life is all a circle. What comes up, has to go down.

Destination Infinity

Why not? It is their life and their right to live whichever way they chose to. Mine refuse to leave, and I find that weird. But then again, the choice is theirs. They are grown up, responsible and financially independant. We educated them to think – and then how can we stop them from doing that?

By: Rahi

Rahi — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 07:07:38 +0000

Why is that there has to be an “evil mother in law and victim daughter in law” or a “evil daughter in law and a victim mother in law”. Why can’t they leave peacefully?

I mean a daughter-in-law is not the first woman who comes in the family. Neither is the mother-in-law the first elderly woman that the bride has seen. Why then are they always at loggerheads.

I think the intolerance and insensitivity in the relationship is because of the age-old perception they have of each other. Had the enmity of the two women not publicised over the centuries, they would have been able to live more peacefully.

It is a handing over-taking over of charge kind of thing …. only it has gone major bad press because insecure women have done it with such poor grace for centuries. I think its a retirement issue which has gotten converted into a “coup by incoming conqueror” thing

By: Shail

Shail — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 14:59:23 +0000

Wonderful post. I loved all the points. The last one is something most MILs never think of, that the DIL is the one to be around to take care of her when she is old and frail. They just expect to be taken care of with love, devotion and respect however badly they have treated their DILs. How will that be is something they refuse to consider.
I was a harassed DIL once upon a time. Now I await my own DILs who will appear in a few years time. Your points are exactly the ones I have chosen to follow when the time comes. It makes the path easier if you let go of your sons slowly even before the DIL enters the picture. I have already done so.

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By: indianhomemaker

indianhomemaker — Thu, 23 Oct 2008 04:22:34 +0000

Didn’t even know such a post existed!!!!!!!!!!!
What a pleasant surprise. So this shows why I instantly loved your blog.
I am out of words. Loved this post.
Linking this post to mine on Joint families, to make a stronger statement , hope you don’t mind.

Thanks IHM. It is something I am learning, a purely personal take on the situation

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