What can I say, here I was, walking the air nicely like the cartoon network character I talk about when I came upon this post and plummetted downwards AAAIIIIIIEEEEEEE. I am totally freaked out – am reminded of ex’s caustic remark when I was home for a long period on maternity leave. He told me ever so sweetly “Get yourself a job – any job. Dammit I’ll pay your employer salary to keep you busy”. All I did was clean his cupboard and give away all his old clothes. Oh yeah, I also fumigated the entire house, cleaned the kitchen etc etc. The thing is – I’ve got to keep busy. I can not sit and do nothing at a stretch. It makes me bitchy and temperamental. I also like earning money (who doesnt heh!) and being independent.
I think that this so-called retirement concept is total bullshit. A mother never retires and neither does a housewife – and they do more laborious stuff than a normal office worker. Even actors dont retire, they become Moms and Dads and such like stuff. So why should we?
In our culture, age is respected. Greying hair and daughter in laws/grandchildren give us the aura of wisdom (never mind if we colour our hair and go ahead and blog about boobs and wrestling heh!) I feel that we should be given a chance to work until we are ready to call quits. Of course I have no retirement plans or funds (I never plan) though I have a vague idea of packing bags and baggage and moving to Punjab or Kasauli or someplace cheaper and more friendly than the NCR.
I have seen how the elderly live in the NCR. Its a lonely life and its boring. Get up early, go for a walk, bring milk for the family. Then go to the temple, spend time there, come back with vegetables from the vendor. Then sit and read the newspaper, watch television, while away time. Then its lunch. After lunch, take a nap, wake up and spend time with grandchildren (if the grandchild is in the mood to spend time with you), then evening walk in the park, come back home. More television and then sleep. I guess it would kill me, if retirement did not. I think life in a smaller town or a village would be better – where life is slow and people are more approachable.
I am not even talking about money – I have this belief that if you are educated, you can look after your own needs. No one ever could make enough to fulfill the greeds any way – so why get into that. It is things like the fear of being redundant, being irrelevant and lonely that are scaring me. For many years, I have been at the helm, both at office and at home and this is a feeling that is new to me.
I would welcome inputs from others reading this blog …… what does one do when your employer thinks that you are old and do not have to work, and your family has grown up and does not need you? How is one to cope with being sidelined after being on centrestage for such a long time?