There once was a princess. She was rather pampered by her family, never allowed to take any decisions, or shoulder responsibilities. Her father always said, “Oh she is a princess. She will rule.”
Since she was gorgeous, when she grew up, she had many suitors. But the pampered princess could not make a decision.
Sadly for her, her father died. Her brothers found her a pain and consulted their prime minister on where to marry her off.
She was married off into a kingdom far away
She hated her new home. They believed in simple living and high thinking. There were no pretty things to wear, silken sheets or attendants and servants to attend to all her needs. On the top of that, her husband was not impressed by her beauty. He found her a pampered silly immature little girl.
But the princess was hurt by his indifference. While flatterers and yes men would not have won her heart, his indifference stung her and perversely made her fall in love with him.
Desperate to win his approval, she sought advise from certain courtiers who had accompanied her to her marital home.
Some told her to smile and fawn on him…..
Others told her to show indifference …
Yet another told her to fight with him ….
Or cry ….
Or go back to her maternal home in the hope that he would miss her
But one said,
My lady, you have to understand your man.
This kingdom is not near the river, it is not in the hills. The terrain is rough, and fierce tribes live here. Survival can only happen if every one works. So it takes team work to live in this kingdom.
Many civilizations have come and gone in the river kingdom of your father. You know why?
Because 50% of the populace thinks that they do not need to work, they can live off the people who work – just because they are royal or noble. Or because their fathers or grandfathers did something really great.
So the other 50% start resenting this. They start feeling that they should not work, because worthless lazy bums will benefit from their work.
And the kingdom goes into decline.
Your husband wants to see you making an effort, he wants to see you behave responsibly.